what it's all about

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Charlotte, NC, United States
I am on a journey -like you, I'm sure. A personal journey, a spiritual journey. A journey about passions, growth, and living. I don't have a good memory, but I value my experiences. It's very strange when you realize that you are being shaped constantly, but ultimately only remember some of the reasons why you are the person you're becoming. I find that when things resonate within me, writing about them helps me to better develop my opinions about them, and to remember them. Sometimes, it's the simple act of looking back and reminding myself where I've been that is all I need to move forward with confidence. That's why I write. Thank you for joining me.

Monday, June 27, 2011

Sad day!

So,  I got a retwist on friday. It had been a while since I've been to the salon. We got cought up, I sat down to be shampooed, and then I got big news from April. She's moving to Florida!
I'm happy for her,  but man,  she's leaving me! Lol. What am I gonna do??
More on that later.
Here's my hair. I don't have time to write,  but will be back soon. Here's pictures from the weekend. I'm not itchy,  but it's been hot. We'll see how long before I wash it.

Wednesday, June 22, 2011

Thinking is a verb ....?

Good morning all. I came across something this morning, and suddenly needed to write about it, so here I am. Let's jump right in, shall we? Busy day ahead.

So, on Facebook this morning, I saw a status that went something like, "...please keep Xxxxx in your thoughts and prayers (if applicable)."

I'm sorry, what?? I hate to rip apart a status that I know is important to someone, but there are so many things wrong with that request. I am shaking my head, but need you to know that I have abundant love for the requestor. I respect her very much, even though I'm blogging about her- gasp! The way I look at it, I am not blogging about her, but about this statement. Anyway. Two things.

First of all, do we need to be so PC these days that we have to put "(if applicable)" when we ask for prayers? I am sure that nobody on your Facebook is going to rip you a new one if you left that out. Especially on a status like this one. That would be extremely insensitive. I think the "if applicable" statement just calls out that you are trying to be respectful of everyone, but is completely unnecessary. Do you really think that someone who doesn't pray is going to read a status that leaves off the "if applicable", and balk? Do you think that you will make them pray, against their will, because you didn't tell them that if it doesn't apply to them they don't have to? I mean, come on. Really?

Secondly, why ask someone to think about another person. I know that "think" is an "action word", but is there really any action behind it? That's like thinking "I'd love to have a turkey sandwich right now" and not getting up and making one. Or "I think I my son should stop pulling his sister's hair," without doing anything about it. I don't get it. I'm not trying to be insensitive. I know that when someone tries to console you, by telling you they are thinking of you (or your dad, granma, goldfish, etc), that it can be comforting. But the message there is different. You've been on their mind. Totally legit, in my book. But why would you ask someone to think of you (or your dad, grandma, goldfish, etc), when the act of thinking does nothing. Even if you, personally, do not pray- if you are going to mention it at all, why bother doing it half heartedly? Are you not sure if you want someone to do what you're asking? Get behind your words, people! Ask for what you really need. If you're too afraid to ask, then how will you ever get what you want? We need to be people that "do", that act. Thinking without action produces nothing.

Ok, that's all. Jumping off my soapbox, and into my day.

And praying that somewhere, someday, something that I write here stirs something in one of you. Make it a great day, y'all. Don't expect it to just be handed to you! But that's a post for another day....  ;)

Tuesday, June 14, 2011

Back to blah

And,  once again,  I'm not feeling my hair. I go to see April on the 24th,  just before my sister in law's wedding. I am not gonna lie. I'm excited for a retwist.

I just don't get what it's doing. Or maybe it's that I'm not sure if it's doing anything. Just a big fro-y mess.

Tuesday, June 7, 2011

Fun things about this past weekend

Friday night,  my husband and I were walking through this street market,  and this lady called out to me to try and sell me some dreadlock beads.  That made me happy! My hair looks like locs!

And on Sunday, I was helping out a photographer friend of mine, who was helping her colleague update her hair/makeup portfolio. So,  I got to dress up as a bride again! It was fun! As soon as I have the pictures,  I will show you what she did with my unruly hair. I didn't think my short teenage locs would do much,  in terms of a style or updo,  but with a lot of bobby pins,  she manager to do a very fun style.  The back was gorgeous! I'll show you as soon as I get the pics. 

In the meantime, here's my 8 month locs.  :-)

another fuzzy wuzzy sneaking out the end. I pulled it out.
up close.
from behind.

Friday, June 3, 2011

do these look like locs to you???

They are starting to look like locs to me! :-) I'm pretty happy about that! It's funny how my attitude towards my hair can change so drastically from one week to the next,  isn't it?

So,  they may look like locs, but they still feel like ringlets.  Up close, they look like them too.  Especially in the front. But more and more are starting to feel locked up.  I love the way they feel.

As you can see,  I gave in and retwisted after my weekend of water.  Here are some pictures of my hair freshly retwisted. I put the black bead back in :)

That's about it for now. I had just walked past a mirror and thought to my self "locs! they look like locs!" (Then I got up close and saw the ringlets....) Anyway, I just wanted to share! :)