what it's all about

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Charlotte, NC, United States
I am on a journey -like you, I'm sure. A personal journey, a spiritual journey. A journey about passions, growth, and living. I don't have a good memory, but I value my experiences. It's very strange when you realize that you are being shaped constantly, but ultimately only remember some of the reasons why you are the person you're becoming. I find that when things resonate within me, writing about them helps me to better develop my opinions about them, and to remember them. Sometimes, it's the simple act of looking back and reminding myself where I've been that is all I need to move forward with confidence. That's why I write. Thank you for joining me.

Wednesday, March 16, 2011

can I just say...

being a wife is HARD.

Chris and I have been maried for... oops, just passed the 6 month date. Oh well. I'll remember it at the year date. Lol.

And even though I don't feel like we're that different from before we were married, somehow, being a wife is way harder than being a girlfriend or fiancee. What's up with that?

I am realizing how hugely selfish I am. Also, right now we're looking at buying a new home, and I'm seeing how different our tastes are ..... It's interesting, to say the least. Pair those things with the fact that I'm somewhat unstable anyway, and you have.... .. . you have....

-a mess. Mainly me. I'm a mess. Ha!

I'm praying that I can be a better wife. A better person, in general, but especially towards my hubster. I'm gonna go ahead and ask that you pray for me too. I will take all the help I can get!

So that's all. Just wanted to put that out there. I'm hoping at least some of y'all can identify with me on this. I can't be the only newlywed who's feeling like a bad wifey.
And of course, I had to show you some stages of my hair in there too. The first pic was on our wedding day (obviously) . I was hoping you could see the huge ole bun I had. Oh heck- here it is:
BAM! Ain't it huge? I Loooved it. And it was all mine. All my hair! No sponges or donuts.

The second picture (with the super cute pixie cut) is when we first met, and the third (on the roof with my long, somewhat relaxed curls) is after we were engaged, about three years later.

Anyway, thanks for listening. -er, reading. You're the best.
Until next time....


  1. Aww.Praying for you. You're NOT a bad wifey...Just figuring things out.Praying for you.

  2. Thank you so much, Thandi! I knew you would!

  3. Girl, coming from someone who has been there and done that...being a wife IS HARD! It's another job on top of the job you already have. Believe me it is hard for your mate too. But if you are both considerate and take out your stress on each other in a GOOD way (you know...hanky panky, dancing, shopping etc) and not in an abusive way (yelling, cursing, offending one another) then you will be just fine :)

  4. Wow! I totally feel you on this one. My hubby and I have been married just over a year. I thought when people said marriage was hard, they were talking about the cooking and cleaning, etc. I was so wrong...that's the easy part. It takes a lot to love someone unconditionally and we have to make a conscious effort with every decision, interaction, reaction, etc. Hang in there, sis! I'm told it gets easier!