I can sum up what I've done with my hair here. It's been: relaxed, Brazilian keratin treatment, braided, short and curly, long and straight, black, brown, red, green streaks, texturized, pixie and straight, long and natural, TWA (teenie weenie afro). I think that's about it. I feel that how you wear your hair changes as your life does. It's not a struggle for me to "deal with" like when I was a youth. But it is now an expression of who I am. Right now, it's in twists. I've had them in for a month and a half. So here's the story behind where I'm at now.
Just after I got married, (actually, I was inspired on my honeymoon in Jamaica,) I decided I wanted to loc my hair. A fact about me: Once I get a "want" in my head, I pursue it obnoxiously until I have it in my hands. I asked a bunch of people in Jamaica about locs and where to get them. Most told me I couldn't have them yet. I know locing is a process, a journey. I know that insta-locs are not possible. And I should have listened, but I refused. My hair was relaxed, and they said it's not possible to loc reaxed har. I didn't buy that. I see straight haired people loc their hair all the time- I see it even moreso now that I can't stop researching locs. So I kept asking. Finally, I found some locals who said it could be done.
The lovely ladies who did my hair told me that in a year, they'd be locked. "Oy, vey. That's a long time," I thought. But I am okay with that. They said to use a crochet hook to interlock my new growth, which I was skeptical about. I listened closely, nonetheless. Upon getting back to the states, the heavy researching began. The interlocking method is acceptable, but not the way I wanted to proceed.
I found a loctician in my area- at Lockstar Salon- and love it.
So now, I wait. There's really not much I can do, besides wrap it when I sleep, massage my scalp every so often, and wait. I fill up my time looking enviously at pictures of other peoples' hair, and reading their stories. We'll see how different the process is for me with my relaxed, mixed race hair. April has no doubt it will loc. She's so encouraging. And I'm so impatient, lol. I know that locking hair is a process, and everyone said it teaches you patience, but so far, my loc lust grows every freaking day, with my patience not growing at all! :) But we shall see!